Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is)

Jan 7–8, 2008 - comments: 5

Today Dr. Land’s special guest is the young, best selling author and speaker Josh Harris. Many of our listeners may recall that Josh wrote the highly acclaimed I Kissed Dating Goodbye a few years ago. You may have heard the interview we did with him on this topic. Josh, now executive pastor of Covenant Life Church in Gaithersburg, Maryland, has decided to deal with a topic often considered taboo in polite society. His new book, Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is), deals head on with the topic of lust. So many feel they are on a hopeless treadmill of shame and guilt because they find themselves enticed by the constant bombardment of our culture’s obsession with lust.

God’s standard regarding sexual purity immediately puts all of us on notice. We must be dependent on the Holy Spirit if we are to receive all that God has for us regarding sexual fulfillment. Although each of us may struggle with this issue, our struggles may look very different. For some it might involve romantic fantasies, or internet pornography, or the temptation to get sexually involved with a boyfriend or girlfriend. To others it may mean fighting off the temptation of adultery, or homosexuality.

Has today’s discussion made you aware of what needs to change in your life? If so that’s good. Gal. 6:9 says: “Let us not become weary in doing good for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Develop your own personal plan for maintaining your purity.

topic(s): Family, Sexual Purity, Abstinence, Modesty, Pornography

5 comments (post your own) feed

1 On Sep 5th, 2006, at 12:10pm, Tracey Hall wrote:

I was so impressed with your interview on the radio today. These topics have been an issue in my relationship, and listening to you gave me a new perspetive on how to deal with these issues, and how to make my husband understand why I feel the way I do. Thankyou!!!God bless you, and Faith and Family!!!!

2 On Sep 5th, 2006, at 8:19pm, Kurt wrote:

My wife and I read Josh’s outstanding book.  Everyone should!  Note: It is also sold under the title SEX IS NOT THE PROBLEM (LUST IS).

3 On Sep 6th, 2006, at 6:44pm, Hopeful & Happy wrote:

Hi,
I heard the last part of the radio broadcast “Not Even a Hint”. I couldn’t believe it. I was hearing a man describe exactly how I felt about the way I feel sometimes when my husband is trying to be intimate with me and he thinks I will like what he is doing but actually it just turns me off.

The person speaking on your radio show evidently knows exactly how I feel. As a victim of child abuse, I have always had a difficult time with intimacy. I do not like being treated like an object. Even trying to have an intimate relationship with my husband is difficult when all I see is someone with lust in their eyes. I want to feel respected, cherished and loved. When my husband comes after me in lust, I just want to flee. It does not make me feel good about myself. I wish I could get my husband to understand how I feel. 

I have ordered the audio tape of your show. My husband says he will listen to the CD with me. I am hoping this will help us grow in our relationship together.

4 On Sep 14th, 2006, at 6:23am, Rachel Baldwin wrote:

I must say that I have read I Kissed Dating Goodbye and it was a great book to read from a man’s point of view of making a decision in a world that looks at you different if you decide you don’t want to date or if you choose to not have sexual relationship until you are married. I didn’t hear the radio interview but I am very aware of who Joshua Harris is and I have his book.
I must testify now that I am 31 years old. I have been celibate for almost 3 years now and it has been a blessing and it has had its moments but I thank God for helping me get through this and realizing that I don’t have to be like the rest of the world.  I am also a single mother so for those who are reading this and have listened to the interview. Get his book I Kissed Dating Goodbye, it is a great.  I am sure the interview was.  Make a decision to say no till the right time comes.

Peace,
Rachel
VA

5 On Jan 13th, 2008, at 3:47pm, Thomas Abney wrote:

Wonderful program. Relative to this topic, Roe V. Wade turns 35 and its debate goes on. Lets shed some light on this hot button issue. Eighty percent of babies aborted are from unwed mothers. This reveals that premarital sex is the main reason for our abortions. Sadly, this information is rarely presented anywhere in our society. I know of no organization whose main purpose is to discourage premarital sex to lower or stop abortions. It would seem wise for our many churches and other organizations to frequently bring this truth forward to address abortion at its cause. At last count, if averaged out three to four thousand babies are aborted each day in the United States. That is about the number of our brave troops that have lost their lives in one year in the Middle East. Procreation (having babies) is a wonderful gift to be used responsibly. Abortion devalues human life with negative results throughout society. Speak the truth, save some babies, be a hero.
Thomas Abney
Ozark MO

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