Sex 180

Jun 16–17, 2008 - comments: 4

Richard Land
You say in Sex 180, that sex is a heart issue. Unpack that for us…

Chip Ingram
Well, I think, again, if we got a bunch of parents in here and they all really loved God, and a few pastors in here, I think, unconsciously, under the radar, would be, “How to we make sure our kids don’t have sex, don’t drink too much alcohol, and don’t do drugs, and we make it though this horrendous little period of life?” It’s an unconscious, defensive posture. But that unconscious question drives people to external behaviors that we want to prevent, and lot of tools and techniques to do that. They [teens] are sexual beings. They’re going to be attracted. It is an issue of the heart.
In other words, if they could understand that you are made a sexual being, God made you a sexual being, these desires are not only good and right, but there’s a right way, the right time. AND you are loved by God and he has a purpose for your life, not to ‘not do’ certain things, but to be a revolutionary in your culture, to free other people. Because intimacy is so great, second-rate sex is so bad.

And so it’s a positive message and that starts with a heart understanding that God’s not trying to keep something good from me. He’s trying to give you the very best.

Land
Chip, bottom line: Why should a young person wait until marriage to have sex?

Ingram
Because you are so valuable. And you are so loved. And your future is so important. And not just your future, but your ‘right now’ experience of intimacy and life and joy and fellowship, first with God, then with other people, demands purity as a prerequisite for experiencing the very best.

You deserve the very best. And to have sex before marriage will short circuit your relationship with God. It will develop a series of self hatred and shame in your heart, and it will destroy and limit what you can have with another human being. And you matter too much. You’re loved too much. And today, this day, regardless of where you have ever been, you can be forgiven. You can put your past being you, God can give you a new path. And that’s what he wants to do for everyone.

topic(s): Family, Addictions, Substance Abuse, Parenting, Pop Culture, Sexual Purity, Abstinence

4 comments (post your own) feed

1 On Nov 14th, 2006, at 12:45am, Linda Turnbull wrote:

Hi - what is the age recommendation for Sex 180?  I have a 12 1/2 year old son.  Thank you.  Linda

2 On Mar 24th, 2007, at 6:00pm, Farah wrote:

I love this book. I am 16 years old and this book has put everything in focus for me. It really gets you pumped up and excited about a new sexual revolution. Our world is so corrupt and the way that you guys show that I think is really cool. I agree with how we see sex everywhere on TV on books, in music its terrible and I’m totally ready for a full 180 turn on sex. You guys are amazing!

3 On Oct 11th, 2007, at 2:39pm, Todd and Lisa Cutshaw wrote:

We gave this book to our high school age son and he loved it!! He said it was the best book he’s read about being a Christian and understanding his sexuality. The message helped to encourage him in his walk with Christ and it encouraged us as parents as we pray and support our son and other youth today. It’s not a new fad, it’s a totally new way for our kids to think and live! Thank you

4 On Jun 16th, 2008, at 1:01pm, Antjuan wrote:

My partner and I are reading this book and have found it a great resource and reference to share with the students. We are both Virgins and have noticed how
important it has been for us to remain abstinent, because it has helped us respond to life’s challenges a little easier. Thank you for writing a book that puts it all out there.

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