Letters to Lovers

Jul 26–27, 2007 - comments: 2

With us on our broadcast are two very special guests, Dr. Tom and Jeannie Elliff. The Elliff’s are with us to share some personal secrets that have helped them build a marriage that has fulfilled them for over 36 years and has fostered successful marriages in hundreds of other couples. I personally am looking forward to hearing from Tom and especially Jeannie.

Dr. Tom Elliff has been on our show a number of times, and it is great to have him back with us on the program. He is well known by many of our listeners for his burning desire to help marriages and families weather the storms of life. Today we are also joined by his wife Jeannie. They have just written a new book together entitled Letters to Lovers.

Tom shares five truths that he requires before marrying a couple on the broadcast. He says, “Both individuals must have a clear testimony of faith in Christ and that they will be members of the same church upon marrying. The parents of each couple must not only consent to, but also joyfully encourage the marriage. The couple must be scripturally free to marry. They must gladly endorse the specific roles established in the Scripture for both husband and wife. And the relationship is bringing out the best in each person.”

Here are the 10 questions Tom asks Jeannie every year:

  1. What could I do to make you feel more loved?
  2. What could I do to make you feel more respected?
  3. What could I do to make you feel more understood?
  4. What could I do to make you more secure?
  5. What can I do to make you feel more confident in our future direction?
  6. What attribute would you like me to develop?
  7. What attribute would you like me to help you develop?
  8. What achievement in my life would bring you greatest joy?
  9. What would indicate to you that I really desire to be more Christ like?
  10. What mutual goal would you like to see us accomplish?

The assult on American marriage has been running full speed ahead for forty years, it is wonderful to see couple such as the Elliff’s share how they have successfully steered their way through the obstacles to not only enjoy the fruits of their marriage, but have passed on their skills to their children and thousands of couples throughout the world. It is our hope that as we work together we will recover God’s design for the family. We will strengthen our own families, and we will inspire those around the world to once again build healthy, loving marriages and families.

topic(s): Family, Marriage

2 comments

1 On Jul 26th, 2007, at 12:27pm, Kimberly Corbin wrote:

Jeanne Elliff shared a book on organaization that helped her alot. I was drawn to that topic and thought of reading it as my husband and I go along with fasting from tv.  We have chose to start with 1 wk, as we are going on vacation with family members, and children so we will not have control of tv, as if we were home. However we are hoping to go longer in September.  Can you suggest any other books. I used to be a reader but have not been for many years so I suppose that may help as you suggest some.  Thank you and thank you for you radio ministry, we do not listen every day but we always enjoy when we do.  God Bless, Kim

2 On Jul 28th, 2007, at 11:47am, Laurie Smith wrote:

You mention this would be beneficial for a newly married couple - what about someone married 23 years?  Could I (we) benefit from this?  Your talk intrigued me…

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