Interview with Tom Elliff

Dec 28, 2005

Every year, Tom and Jeannie get away for a private retreat. Once while sharing a meal in an intimate restaurant, Tom began to ask Jeannie questions he had never asked before; he wanted to truly listen to his wife’s words and hear from her heart. The experience they shared that morning revolutionized their relationship and from that moment forward their good marriage grew into a great marriage. Take a look at what Tom asked Jeannie and what he wants to share with others so they can build a successful family life too.

Ten Questions Every Husband Should Ask His Wife Annually:

  1. What could I do to make you feel more loved?
  2. What could I do to make you feel more respected?
  3. What could I do to make you feel more understood?
  4. What could I do to make you more secure?
  5. What can I do to make you feel more confident in our future direction?
  6. What attribute would you like me to develop?
  7. What attribute would you like me to help you develop?
  8. What achievement in my life would bring you greatest joy?
  9. What would indicate to you that I really desire to be more Christ like?
  10. What mutual goal would you like to see us accomplish?

Five truths Dr. Elliff requires a couple meet before he will marry them:

  1. Both individuals must have a clear testimony of faith in Christ and that they will be members of the same church upon marrying.
  2. The parents of each couple must not only consent to, but also joyfully encourage the marriage.
  3. The couple must be scripturally free to marry.
  4. They must gladly endorse the specific roles established in the Scripture for both husband and wife. (In other words, the Husband should be able to support the family without her income and not begrudge her if she chooses to stay home.)
  5. And the relationship is bringing out the best in each person.

topic(s): Family, Marriage

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