For Faith & Family | Rethinking Marriage: A Biblical Response | Comments http://faithandfamily.com/ This feed provides all comments on "Rethinking Marriage: A Biblical Response." en web-master@erlc.com ℗ & © 2008 ERLC Comment 1 http://faithandfamily.com/fff/article/rethinking-marriage-a-biblical-response#comment1 http://faithandfamily.com/fff/article/rethinking-marriage-a-biblical-response#comment1 1 Peter 2: 17 does not say, “honor everyone”, as you state in this article.  It does say, “Show proper respect to everyone:....”.
Honor and respect are two different things.  I have respect for the most base human being alive, but I do not honor him.
I would appreciate your reply to my comment.

Thank You,

Joe Smith

]]> Mon, 26 Jun 2006 13:40:55 CST Comment 2 http://faithandfamily.com/fff/article/rethinking-marriage-a-biblical-response#comment2 http://faithandfamily.com/fff/article/rethinking-marriage-a-biblical-response#comment2 John,

I just want to point out that a couple of versions (KJV and Holman Christian Standard) I looked at do say “honor.” The Holman Christian Standard Bible said “Honor everyone.” Take a look here. I don’t want to argue between translations, but I hope that helps to see why it was used in the article.

Just my two cents.

]]> Mon, 26 Jun 2006 19:10:57 CST Comment 3 http://faithandfamily.com/fff/article/rethinking-marriage-a-biblical-response#comment3 http://faithandfamily.com/fff/article/rethinking-marriage-a-biblical-response#comment3 Thank you for this information.  This is one of the most powerful pieces of information I’ve seen and I’m amazed because I see, in the Word of God, powerful information all the time.  I honestly stopped to pray and thank God for allowing me to see this in a time when my wife and I were following the script of the unloving and disrespectful marriage. 

One pastor told me that the woman should respond to the man’s lead and the man should respond to the woman’s need.  How beautiful these two concepts are when combined. 

Again, I greatly appreciate your insight and look forward to additional information.

May God richly bless you.

]]> Sun, 27 Aug 2006 04:48:41 CST Comment 4 http://faithandfamily.com/fff/article/rethinking-marriage-a-biblical-response#comment4 http://faithandfamily.com/fff/article/rethinking-marriage-a-biblical-response#comment4 we are in a couples group dealing with love and respect.  however none of us seem to have a real good definition of respect.  i think we all have a pretty good idea of love (seems more universal in that you know it when you have it and we’ve all experienced it in its miriad forms) but respect appears to be a bit less tangible.  too, we have discussed that love is the greater calling. do you agree

]]> Wed, 04 Oct 2006 03:36:54 CST Comment 5 http://faithandfamily.com/fff/article/rethinking-marriage-a-biblical-response#comment5 http://faithandfamily.com/fff/article/rethinking-marriage-a-biblical-response#comment5 Hi Angela,

You’ve touched on a struggle that seems to be very common. 

There is a small, very practical book that our staff HIGHLY recommends titled For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn.  She faced a similar struggle and discovered extremely tangible solutions.  (It’s a good read for husbands as well!)

We interviewed Shaunti about the book on For Faith & Family Radio.  Click here to listen to that program and see how some folks responded.

We’ve done well to learn that love is unconditional, but we’ve been taught that respect is earned.

As Dr. Eggerich points out in the above article, this thinking is contrary to scripture.  As Eph 5:33 clearly states, the calling is for the husband to love his wife and for the wife to respect her husband.  Paul does not instruct us to “respect IF...” He simply calls us to respect (period).  It seems we’re built that way: women need love, men need respect.  In the context of this passage on marriage, love and respect are equal.

We wish you godspeed as you and your husband learn to love AND respect.  :-)

]]> Wed, 04 Oct 2006 07:07:46 CST Comment 6 http://faithandfamily.com/fff/article/rethinking-marriage-a-biblical-response#comment6 http://faithandfamily.com/fff/article/rethinking-marriage-a-biblical-response#comment6 I understand that you say love and respect are equal, but am I scriptually incorrect in thinking it should go both ways?  If my husband and I disagree on a subject and we are unable to come to a mutual agreement of how it should be handled, is it scriptually correct that he makes the final decision?  Am I supposed to respect that fact, that he does not respect my feelings or feels that in certain situations his views are correct.  I really do not know how I am supposed to accept that as the wifes place.  I understand that the Husband is the “head of the household” and should be the spiritual leader, but I feel that being the spiritual leader is in all aspects of our family and not just when he uses that to get the last word.  I am not even sure if I am making sense, but I need some advice.

God Bless

]]> Sat, 11 Nov 2006 13:06:52 CST Fri, 01 Jun 2007 08:04:37 CST Comment 7 http://faithandfamily.com/fff/article/rethinking-marriage-a-biblical-response#comment7 http://faithandfamily.com/fff/article/rethinking-marriage-a-biblical-response#comment7 I read Emerson Eggerichs’ book and contacted him via his website to seek individual help with my failed marriage and how to reach my former spouse.

I never heard back from him.

So I question his willingness to really help in such situations.

This has been my recurring experience, I read the books and contact the folks who write them, seeking help.  Not once has any of these folks taken on the challenge, nor have the provided a known good local resource.

Some respond, most don’t reply at all.

It really is sad that so-called Christians don’t have the courtesy to respond to real inquiries by hurting fellow believers.

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